Category Archives: Health


I was given the gift of a vehicle –

A vehicle that got me to and from, through bumps in the road of life, up hills and winding roads. This vehicle provided music – beautiful songs of happiness and joy, sounds of sadness and trials.

Over time, the exterior got some dents and dings. The scratches and wear over time caused some character. Every dent became a fond memory – something to remember that we made it through.

The vehicle had breakdowns, of course. It needed routine maintenance and occasionally some new parts. It needed some TLC, but it was a trusty vehicle and over time I grew to love and appreciate it.

Eventually, this vehicle and I became a team. We quit working against each other – I gave it what it needed and it got me where I was going. Instead of looking at the imperfections, I focused on its uniqueness and assets. Instead of comparing it to other people’s vehicles, I was thankful that I was ever given one in the first place. It took some time for me to appreciate that some people drive a Ferrari and other people drive a Taurus, but as long as the vehicle runs – that is all that matters.

Once I realized how to appreciate and care for it, I really started to enjoy the ride.

Take care of your body and learn to enjoy the only on that you’ll get in this ride called life.

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The Problem with Asking –

This post is a bit different from my others. Typically a light-hearted person, I am very passionate about this. Please know that I am writing this for the millions of women out there who are touched by this issue and I think there needs to be a paradigm shift in our country.

I am a young woman in my child-bearing years. I have been married for 3 ½ years to the love of my life and like many of you, from the time that my husband proposed, people have been asking when we will be having kids. At first, I laughed it off, rolled my eyes, or even sometimes gave a serious answer on our future plans. As time goes on,  I am torn between keeping quiet and saying what I feel – even though many may not understand why I feel the way I do.

When you start off in marriage (especially at a young age) you don’t foresee the inability to have children. You don’t plan that you or your spouse will experience health issues. You don’t realize how often miscarriages happen and how common they truly are. You don’t think that the sheer fact of getting pregnant is a miracle in itself and some people struggle for years and years.

Everyone else assumes that you want children right now or that you even want them at all. They assume you can have children. They assume that you haven’t already been trying. They assume you are healthy enough to have children.

According to the American Pregnancy Association (2011), “the chances of having a miscarriage can range from 10-25%, and in most healthy women the average is about a 15-20% chance.” This number includes the number of pregnancies – not people who miscarriages touch. This means the number of people who have experienced a miscarriage could be much larger. Personally, I know over 30 women who have experienced the devastation of a miscarriage.

The truth is – I cannot think of a way to say this without offending anyone. The truth is – I know that many won’t understand why I feel so strongly about this. It is a private matter, but both my husband and I have health issues that we are working to get figured out. No, none of them are regarding fertility that we know of… but, at this point, we have so much on our plate and we aren’t certain whether these issues will affect a baby – so we are choosing to wait. Every day that someone asks me about our plans, I cringe. If I tell them the answer I just gave – they also assume that I opened the door to talk about our health issues.

I’ve watched friends of mine be asked when they want kids and the person asking them doesn’t realize that they wanted kids years ago, but the fertility drugs aren’t helping. I’ve known a couple that the topic of pregnancy was such an issue in their marriage that their love life was on the rocks. I’ve known friends who have missed work due to a miscarriage and then were asked the next week why they don’t have children yet. I’ve been asked if there are plans for children in the near future in a meeting with colleagues at work.  I’ve had pregnant people ask me if I was pregnant because I wasn’t drinking – in front of a group of people I don’t know. Please, practice empathy, people. Last time I checked, you weren’t involved in everyone else’s life or love life (harsh I know.. but it is the harsh reality of how I feel).

I watch as these individuals hold back the tears. I sit in silence as they cry inside. If the question is burning in your mind and you simply cannot hold back from asking – maybe you should start out with a simple, “do you want children?” You may want to think about leaving it at that. If the other party chooses to share more, that is great. If not, don’t push it.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait to have children – for any reason. There is nothing wrong with seeking some medical help to conceive. And as taboo as it is to say, there is nothing wrong with choosing not to have children at all. The problem lies within people thinking that you must make things happen on their timeline.

If you’re pregnant or have children already – feel blessed. It is a miracle and remember that it is not so easy for all other women and couples. Some people are tormented by the thought that their own bodies don’t allow them to conceive. Others are tortured with being on fertility treatments. People feel inadequate – men and women alike. There are pressures all around and though most of it is innocent, please don’t add to the pressures of other people’s hardship. Look at your children and recognize that not everyone is blessed with a natural conception and labor. Hug them and hold them – teach them empathy and understanding.

Children are a blessing from God. Don’t misconstrue my frustration and think that I don’t like or don’t want children – it is simply an overused and abused question. It is an emotional topic. I pray that this change can start with me and can spread to everyone else. I say these things out of love for my hurting friends. I say these things out of frustration for having to over-explain myself to others. I say these things out of hope for the future generations and their ability to empathize and foresee how their words & actions will affect others.

Much love.

Happy and trying to get healthy…

First, let me preface this whole post with why I am writing about this – I don’t have cancer – Thank God. My problems certainly aren’t the worst in the world. But, maybe… just maybe, I can help someone else who is having a similar problem. I won’t be embellishing in every detail, but I’ll generalize by saying that I’m having some autoimmune health issues. I’ve been doing some research and it is interesting to hear about how gluten seems to play a role in autoimmune diseases.

Because I have fatigue and joint aches from this – I don’t work out much. Okay, Okay – sometimes I probably coouullld work out, but truthfully, it is not at the top of my priority list. I’ve tried to be somewhat healthy, but the body is a machine and when things break down, sometimes you have to change your diet to fix them. As noted in the “about me” section – cutting back on the sweets is going to be tough.

If you’re having or suspecting you have autoimmune issues, I invite you to do some research with me and share in your findings to help make everyone healthier.

Here is a list of 3 cookbooks that I LOVE. Not all of the recipes are gluten-free, but it is definitely a good place to start:

  1. Happily Hungry: Smart Recipes for Kids with Cancer by Danielle Cook Navidi– about $20.00 – I figure if this is good for kids with cancer… it is probably good for everyone. Please, someone tell me why we wait until something is wrong to take care of ourselves??
  2. Great Taste, No Pain: 112 of the Most Delicious, Delectable, Scrumptious, Yummy and Healthy Recipes by Sherry Brescia. This was shared with me by someone else who has health issues and she has seen a huge turnaround in her health after learning how to nourish her body and learning what not to put in her body.
  3. Cooking ala Heart Cookbook: Delicious Heart Healthy Recipes to Reduce the Risk of Heart Disease and Stroke by Linda Hachfield. Again, this isn’t necessarily gluten-free – but, has other great ideas on how to avoid processed foods.

My goals are to avoid processed foods and gluten and see how my body reacts after 2 months. My goal is not to lose any weight – it is to feel better. Everyone should have a size that they feel comfortable and is healthy for them – which is not necessarily the size that society says we should be.

Goal: Happy & HEALTHY 🙂 Ready, Set, GO!